Uju Anya, the US-based Nigerian professor, says she realised she was attracted to women ten years into her marriage to her ex-husband.
In an interview on WithChude, Anya said she was genuinely in love with her ex-husband and stressed that their marriage was not “fake”.
She described their relationship as “exciting and fulfilling” but said she came to understand her attraction to women after a decade with her former husband.
Anya added that she found love again with Sirry Alang, whom she described as her “dream wife”.
She noted that their union is about blending families, not just getting marriage.
“It was not a fake marriage. I was genuinely in love and excited, and the sex was fantastic,” she said.
“Ten years into the marriage, I realised I needed to be with women, and he gave me permission to go ahead. My wife, Dr Sirry Alang, my dream wife, my sweetheart — we did not just get married; we blended a family.”
Anya and Alang got engaged in March 2024 and got married the same year.
Anya is a lecturer at the Carnegie Mellon University in the United States.
She became popular in 2022 after her tweet wishing the late Queen Elizabeth II an “excruciating pain” went viral.
Alang, on the other hand, is a Cameroonian-American health services researcher.
She is also an associate professor of Sociology and Health, Medicine and Society at Lehigh University.
Anya and Alang have been married to men in previous years and had children.
